Pastor Tom Dabasinskas

Earlier in my life, the very mention of the word conflict brought painful memories to mind: people arguing, friendships ending, parents divorcing. I learned that conflict inevitably led to hurt and pain. Consequently when I encountered a conflict situation, I literally had a physical reaction to the unsettling feelings that it evoked in me. I would do anything possible to avoid the situation and if that wasn’t possible I would then try to control the situation to minimize the painful consequences.

Over the past 15 years, I have learned that God can do something unexpected in the midst of conflict, something remarkably good! I have seen people confessing their sin, friendships and marriages strengthened, and God’s power displayed in ways that have been faith-building and a witness to unbelievers. Now when faced with conflict situations, I still have unsettling feelings but there is also hope, anticipation, and curiosity to see what good thing God will do next.

If you would like to learn more about how you can step into the good opportunities that conflict provides, come join the Summer Series class on Sundays. We are learning God’s principles to faithfully step into the good He intends in times of conflict.

Do you feel like you could use some personal coaching for a conflict you are facing? HCC has people who are trained to coach others so that they can encounter the good opportunities God has for them. If you would like to meet with a conflict coach, send me an email to arrange a time to do that at

Yes, conflict is unsettling. However, God intends to unsettle us in order to move us and others to experience something remarkably good, something better than what we can imagine and that will bring Him glory.

For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, that according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.

Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen. Ephesians 3:14-21